"It must be hard having a brother like that...?
What do you mean like that? With Autism?
Yeah, that. You know..you can't like...talk or anything. It must be hard.
Ah, well no. No, it's not."
Words may fail at times, but there are ways beyond speaking. Even though Paco cannot say many words, he can surely find a way to communicate through his drawings, playing music, and his enigmatic facial expressions. He is certainly not afraid to protest when he's upset, or cry when he's sad. I think a common stereotype associated with people who have autism is that they're these emotionless voids trapped in some far off world. No. My brother is present. He is human.
Paco and I connected through the movies we watched. We'd watch a movie or a show and then reenact it. Paco loooooves to re-wind his favorite scenes from movies. Heehee, I think he picked that up from me. Together, we'd act out scenes from Alice and Wonderland, Jurassic Park and countless Disney movies. We had dance parties to the song "I Like to Move It" from the movie Madagascar and pretended we were the silly penguins. If one of us wasn't up to playing, we knew something was wrong. Words were not always necessary.
But when we were happy, we got lost in worlds of the Jurassic age and Dr. Seuss. Side by side, we read our school books and did our math equations. We picked out Christmas trees and lit up the house during the Holiday season. Autism does not inhibit our family from loving one another and growing together. We'll all here for Paco and he's here for us.
I dedicate this blog post to my little brother Paco, who's not so little now. He now towers over me at about 6'4. I pray for all the researchers and teachers who work with people with autism. To the families, I pray that you stay strong, stay patient. Every day, we found out more about autism and how we can help our loved ones. Hang in there!
Thank you to my lil bro for teaching me to keep the imagination alive and to keep constant love in our hearts.
Happy World Austism Awareness Day.
To learn more about autism, please visit the Autism Speaks Website.
This post is so sweet! =)
ReplyDeleteI love that you posted this. My brother is also autistic and it's so nice to read something written by someone who truly understands.
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